Fetishism Guide

Domination
You get to tell him what to do. Some women force their partner to lick the toilet clean or cut the lawn with scissors. You might just fancy keeping him under your stilettos for half an hour and making him beg for sex.

Submission
He gets to tell you what to do. Get your master to make you sit at his feet, naked, while he watches football - only when the match finishes will he make love to you.

Bondage
You might not want to invest in a torture chamber straight away,
but taking it in turns to tie each other up during sex can be a real turn-on.

Spanking
Start off with spanking, using the hand - take it in turns to lie on each others' laps and gently whack each other. Like it? Try doing it harder. You'll need to work out a code word for when either of you has had enough, as pleading for your partner to stop is part of the pleasure.

Exhibitionism
Some exhibitionists take to wearing low-cut tops, short skirts, see-through clothes, etc. Others get a Polaroid and make their partners watch them naked for hours (without touching), taking explicit photos.

Voyeurism
It's wonderful to put on a show for a man who likes to watch (or to have him do one for you) - no touching until you're both dying for it, of course.

Al fresco
Lot of couples are into doing it outdoors. For some the frisson comes from the thought of being caught in the act, others adore the fresh air. Just make sure your chosen venue isn't likely to get you arrested.

Feet
Suck them, tease them, clean them, dry them, ride them and discover the joys that give pleasure to millions.

Watersports
Urinating on each other can be very erotic. Try it in the bath to see if it does anything for you.

Dressing up as dogs
Some men like nothing better than to have a woman wearing a fluffy tail and a collar, eating from a bowl and woofing before they take her on all fours.

Rubber, leather, PVC
Go to a sex shop and see if any of the rubber, leather and PVC items turn you on. All the accoutrements for most mainstream fetishes will be there - it's fun to shop with your partner and chat through things